Weddings and friendships...

[Crax]

So... my "best friend" emailed me tonight. 3 years ago I introduced him to another friend of mine, and they were engaged last spring. Well, the email I got was to let me know that I'm no longer invited to the wedding. Ever since I started dating the girl I'm with now I don't hang out with his fiance as much(previously one of my best friends). She says she feels like I dropped her as a friend. I guess it's complicated, not really... but how dumb is that? 2 months before the wedding and they decide... not only am I no longer IN the wedding, but I'm not even invited. So much for being best friends huh? What do you guys think...?

[NotMyBest2Day]

She of all people should understand that the other person in the relationship gets more attention than "friends." That is pretty f'ed up though. She's a dolt. Don't dwell on it, move on.

I know a couple of people that are going through pretty much the same thing. Best friends, then one of them gets in a relationship, and the other feels left out because you won't drop your bf/gf to go hang out with them, so they get pissy and write you off.

[Zefram]

LOL, i wouldnt be tad dissappointed if someone decided not to invite me to their wedding............

Dont bother explaining or replying the e-mail, i've bet even your gf is wont whine like that :p

There's a saying here in my country, "you scratch my back, i'll scratch yours". When you get married soon, send the exact e-mail to your friend, see how they react :eek:

[omga14]

show up in your best punk outfit and look like your all high in mescalin. then scream out, " how could you let a gangbang get between our freindship!". j/k

if she can't see that you have a good thing with your girl(she is getting married so should understand) then she wasn't a REAL freind. there might be other things that led to thier decision to kick you out. if you want to ask then do so. if not then you need to cut ties all together.

i mean ousting you of the wedding as being a best man or whatever is one thing. telling you not to come at all when you were the one that did the introductions is just wrong. even if i was on the outs with the person who introduced me to my wife i would still invite them as a gesture of appreciation.

[Crax]

I'm gonna talk to my other best friend about it today. It's always been the 3 of us as best friends... like the 3 amigos or something. He won't be happy to hear this. I anticipate the news to be like a nuclear weapon when he finds out. You guys are all right, that's exactly how I feel. I called him up last night and griped at him for a while, then told him that I hope she appreciates what he's doing... cause when the wedding is over and he starts realizing what he's done things aren't going to be cool between us. Basically, it's just stupid. I can't put it into any better terms than that.

[Stone Fox]

I have to agree. That kind of behaviour is lower than a snakes bell end. :(

It's very tempting to jump on the 'you don't need friends like that' bandwagon, but that wouldn't stop it hurting.

Sorry to hear about it mate.

[Nova]

wait, your best friends are girls? you're a manly man ain't ya :p

really sucks hearin that do.